Cyber Bullies – The Terminators of the Design Community

Cyber Bullies – The Terminators of the Design Community

Not everyone has been mistreated by a school yard bully. However, everyone knows bullying exists. Bullying is not restricted by age or environment and doesn’t necessarily have to be a physical altercation to be considered bullying. In fact, designers and developers are also prone to bullying – cyber bullying. You may have been unfairly and unreasonably criticized and made to feel small or defeated. Clients, designers, developers and even the audience you cater to are all capable of bullying if they choose to do so. More often than not, culprits hide behind false identities and abuse others just for their own twisted pleasure.

Cyber Bullies – The Terminators of the Design Community
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Cyber bullying is a rapidly increasing trend that is not a good sign for our web community. Statistics show that almost all bloggers have experienced some form of cyber bullying at one point or another.

Negativity online can become too much for anyone to bear. In extreme cases, it will terrorize and traumatize people and affect their quality of work. When one becomes afraid of criticism and negativity, you are prevented from fulfilling your full potential. Stamp out bullying. Treat others the way you would like to be treated; with respect and dignity. In order for the community to grow, we must do our best to minimize and discourage cyber bullying.

Today, we’ll take a look at the negative effects of cyber bullying on the design community as well as on the writer. Cyber bullies are like weeds in a garden. They are not outright lethal or dangerous, but they stunt the growth and quality of the surrounding plants and flowers. If all bullies think twice before committing this “cyber crime” and consider mending their ways, the web community would be a more enjoyable place and will be able to flourish and grow positively. If you are a cyber bully, consider these factors mentioned here and reflect upon your actions.

Cyber Bullying – More Than Just A Term

Let’s explore the term cyber bullying and clarify the definition of this “crime”.

Cyber bullying presents itself in many forms; mean-spirited comments are very common, so are threats and offensive behavior. When digital technology is intentionally used to torment, threaten, harass, humiliate or embarrass, it is considered as cyber bullying. While missing the physical aspect of bullying, often times, cyber bullying is even more vindictive because physical wounds can heal but emotional wounds leave a lasting impression and mark on a person.

The Bully’s Cyber Playground

Cyber bully can happen to you anywhere online and on various platforms. Social networking sites, chat rooms, instant messaging programs, email, text messaging, personal digital assistants (PDA), and of course internet websites like design blogs or forums.

Playground
Image credit: Martin Cogley

Putting a Face to the Cyber Bully

As mentioned above, anyone is capable of being a cyber bully. No one is perfect. We are all susceptible to our human emotions and frailties. Fellow designers could very easily cross the line when the green eyed monster is in play. Very easily, what should have been common and objective criticism can turn very ugly, very fast.

Anyone
Image credit: Arthur Coddington

There are many various motivations that can propel a person to partake in cyber bullying. Anger, jealousy, revenge, and in some cases, just entertainment is a sufficient reason to bully. Humans put other human beings down to feel better about themselves, and to exert the fact that they have power over someone else. Sometimes, a victim could suddenly lash out after much repression only to find themselves becoming the bully they once feared so much.

There are so many reasons why people bully, as such each case of cyber bully needs to be tackled different. Unfortunately, because of our human complexity, there isn’t a “one size fits all” solution where cyber bullying is concerned.

Be aware that it is not necessary for you to have made any mistakes to be targeted and persecuted by cyber bullies.

Understanding the Bully

Doctors have to first diagnose a patient’s illness before they can prescribe an appropriate medicine. This is the same with the cyber bully. In order to try and resolve this issue, we must first understand the reasons why cyber bullies bully. What do they want? What is their psychological mindset? Is it fame, notoriety or attention that they seek?

Reading Bullies
Image credit: –Tico–

Some bullies do bully because they like the attention. Some do it because they like to terrorize others to feel more powerful. Others do it because they are jealous and bully to make themselves feel better. Cyber space is a great place to express your true self without fear of consequence or backlash. Bullies abuse this fact by not thinking about the consequences and the harm they might cause to others.

Bullies are even more daring in cyber space because they believe that they can hide their true identity and not have to face the consequences of their crimes. This is irresponsible behavior and a cowardly manner to express oneself.

The Thin Line between Constructive Criticism and Vindictive Bullying

Freedom of speech is a wonderful thing. Sadly, cyber bullies abuse this power and use it as a tool to further their egos and personal power. Constructive feedback and comments are crucial for improvement and advancement especially in the design community. However, one should never cross the line between giving constructive criticism from outwardly being forceful and hostile.

Tact is the key here. Say what you want but always considered the impact of your words. Put yourself in the other person’s shoe and ask yourself if you would like to be treated that way. If the answer is no, then perhaps you should think twice before committing to that act.

Do We Have Ourselves to Blame?

The design community is full of beauty and creativity. However, behind the scenes, the world of design is a very harsh and sometimes brutal environment. There is plenty of mediocre and substandard sites and information floating around on the World Wide Web. If your site doesn’t produce something worth their time, designers will not hesitate to point that out. We can’t always please or satisfy everyone. While we cannot control what people like or who visits our sites, we can ensure that our projects are of a decent standard at the very least and what you produce is not a repetition but of some benefit to the community.

Blame Who?
Image credit: Uriela Marie

The design community is constantly in discourse regarding the improvement and substance of online content. We constantly have to update ourselves and keep with the trends at the very least, even if we cannot make new trends. Poor content like list articles are less appreciated because of the over-saturation of such content. We cannot just follow old trends and forget to make new breakthroughs. It falls on each and every one’s own shoulders to ensure that we continue to improve rather than stay stagnant or worse, deteriorate.

Here are some interesting articles to read:

The Senseless Torture Design Blogs Suffer

Maintaining a community blog and constantly publishing useful and informative content is no easy feat. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize the effort and work that needs to go into any content prior to publication.

Not knowing the time and effort it takes really isn’t that big of a deal. However, it becomes a problem when people do not appreciate the difficulty of the task and penalize you for not providing the best available resource for them.

Suffering
Image credit: Emily Thomas

Some people will help improve your content by sharing their views and providing extra links to resources relating to your article. However, there are others who only criticize rather than help improve the content and the community.

The Protection Action against Cyber Bullying

Some websites help protect people from cyber bullying, through specific clauses in their terms of service. However, not all do. For instance, Blogspot, a blogging service run by Google has it stated that they will not take a blog down if a defamation of character has occurred unless by court order. Depending on which country you reside in, getting such a court order can be difficult because not all authorities are properly trained in cyber crimes or specifically in regards to cyber bullying.

Protection
Image credit: Paul Hocksenar

Design blogs have the ability to moderate comments and prevent spam or negative comments from being published. This is a good way to stop attacks from becoming a public flogging; however, it will still negatively affect your morale especially if the attacks continue.

If you are active in the blogosphere, be wary of people who are wrapped up in “online drama”. You don’t want to be dragged into their “drama” lest they turn their negative attentions on you and make you their new target.

5 Tips on How to Win the War against Cyber Tyranny!

Be the Bigger Man – See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil

Ignore their pointless and useless comments. Bullies hide behind the fact that they cannot be identified in person and don’t leave names, contact details or website profiles. It is human nature to want to protect yourself and hit back. However, don’t fall into their trap. Expert bullies do not push their victims outright. They taunt and tease to incite you to fight back and be the one to throw the first punch. Learn to walk away.

Strength in Numbers – Fight the Fight Together

When bullies go overboard, fight back! However, be sure to fight with honor. Go up against bullies the right way. If a particular bully is harassing many others besides yourself, rally your fellow bloggers in the design community and boycott the bully so that no one else will get affected. This is not easy to accomplish, unless if you have the support of the community. However, this is one way to step in the right direction in making the Internet a better and more positive place to be in.

Report the Crime – Seek Out Lady Justice

Although local law enforcement may not be equipped to deal with cyber bullying, there is no harm in reporting the situation to the relevant authorities. Document everything and gather proof of the bullying. Proof in hand, seek out the proper authorities so that they can help you deal with the situation and the people involved. Each country has different laws and regulation regarding the Internet. If your country does not have the means to resolve the bullying, it will be a long road ahead. However, if the problem persists and more people report such activities, eventually, the authorities will notice the increasing problem and will find a way to handle cyber crimes in time to come. If no one speaks out about cyber bullying, no one can help you and the problem will just worsen.

Keep the Faith – It’s Not You, It’s Them

Bullies derive power and joy from seeing other people suffer. Don’t allow them to get through to your psyche. If you approach them, plead them or beg them to stop the bullying, it will only encourage them to do more harm. Don’t give them a reaction.

However, the most important thing is to not allow them to break your own defenses down. You are not the one at fault and you do not deserve such blatant attacks. Remain strong and keep your faith and confidence in yourself. If you break down or lose confidence, even if you do not respond to the bullies, you would have lost the fight. Do not back down; show them that despite their attempts to bully you, you are still capable of producing useful, creative and good content and projects.

Improve Yourself – Prove Them Wrong

What better way to slap these bullies in the face than to prove them wrong? Cyber bullies might say your work or content is bad or even attack your character or personality. However, continuously work on improving yourself and your work. When others recognize the effort you’ve put in and the improvements you’ve made, they will bestow due credit and praise upon you. As more and more people recognize your growing talents, cyber bullies will have no substance in their negative comments. This will only help others to see the bully’s true colors and elevate your personality and character for facing them with dignity and handling the situation maturely.

10 Negative Comments in Design Blogs You Shouldn’t Emulate

You’ve got to love the invention of comment control. If not for it, there could be worse cases of cyber bullying than there are today. We have asked many design blogs in the community regarding cyber bullying and if they’ve been a victim before. Almost each design blog has had their fair share of nasty and abusive comments. Fortunately, we designers are optimists and look at the bright side of life. Rather than moping over it, take it with a pinch of salt and move on.

Here are some examples of negative and undesirable comments that design blogs receive. Please be aware that comments might have been removed from the original site.

Webdesigndepot

Web Design Depot

Smashing Magazine

Smashing Magazine

Smashing Magazine 2

Smashing Magazine 3

Smashing Magazine 4

Slodive

Slodive

Onextrapixel

Onextrapixel

Instant Shift

Instant Shift

HongKiat

HongKiat

Cat Who Blog

Cat Who Blog

Build Internet

Build Internet

Build Internet 2

Aext

Aext

1stwebdesigner

We could have seen more hasher and nastier comment even not of the invention of comment control. A lot of this negativism does not meet the daylight but there are still some who did.

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Don’t Be A Menace – Stop the Bullying Today!

The best medicine to this malice is to not be affected by them. If bullying is the crime, the cure is not giving them encouragement to continue the bullying. Remember that reacting to bullying is the bully’s prize. Don’t give them the satisfaction by letting them get to you emotionally or mentally.

Cyber bullying is not ‘normal’ and is not ‘okay’. Everyone can lend a hand and play a part in stopping cyber bullying. Participate in healthy communication and be tactful when sharing your thoughts and feelings. The Internet is a public space, one that we are all responsible for. Let’s all make the Internet a more enjoyable place.

Have you ever been a victim of cyber bullying? Share your story with us and how you handled the situation.

Aidan Huang is a web enthusiast and ingenious blogger who loves all things design, interesting and technology. He is the editor-in-chief at Onextrapixel and have founded several other interesting blogs. Do keep in touch with him on Facebook and follow him on Twitter.

Comments

  1. / Reply

    I have to admit I did wrote some bad comments. No intention to hurt the author, I just don’t like it.

    Now, I prefer not to wrote comments if it’s not necessary. If I like the article, I’ll just tweet it. If I don’t like it, I’ll just walk away and hoping others will speak for me.

    • steve42,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    Frankly, this is a rather immature article.
    Perhaps because of the examples you cited didnt at all seem like ‘bullying’ per se, but just immaturity:

    #1-FIRST! I hate yur article! But I wont tell you why! <– Verdict, the guy/gal is an immature prick

    The rest? I dont know… a few seem harsh, perhaps, but necessarily 'bullying' – or do you expect to be fellated with every comment post?
    It is hard to judge those comments on their merits (or lack of merit) -You would have improved your article quite a bit if you linked to the blog posts you lifted the comments from. At the very least you will have given the copyright owners some 'link love', even as you took screen shots of their content to make YOUR article! :)

    Some of the comments, contrary to your assertion, are NOT 'bullying' by any stretch of the imagination!
    "Author needs to get lessons on grammar, etc."

    I agree with those statements. I find poorly worded and sloppy grammar inexcusable in a 'professional article'.

    Your own article ends with
    "We could have seen more hasher and nastier comment even not of the invention of comment control. A lot of this negativism does not meet the daylight but there are still some who did."

    ?? Why not proof read? Does the 'send/submit' button have an expiration date that forces you to post it without taking time to read it?

    Some of the comments about Smashing Magazine, while not kindly written may well be valid, especially in the minds of the commentators.

    It IS a valid position to hold that a compilation of previously published posts is a rip-off – Personally, I disagree, A well done 'best of' compilation of articles provides other things than just the article itself, it provides an introduction to individual authors I would otherwise never run into.
    However, Smashing Magazine had been sloppy of late (although the last few weeks HAVE shown a measurable uptick in quality of articles, even the ubiquitous 'round up' posts) – Indeed, one particularly sloppy post, full of grammar and spelling errors, the owner ( I guess it was the owner italy Friedman,responded saying that "I should bring spelling and grammar errors to their attention"

    my response comment? "Hell no! what do you take me for, your Intern???"

    Surprisingly, THAT comment disappeared?

    LOL Bullies, who knows where they hide, waiting to pounce??

      • Raff,
      • September 8, 2010
      / Reply

      I don’t think this article is immature at all. I see there is a valid discussion about this topic in which many of us has turn a blind us to it. It’s either many of us don’t even bother to care or simply feel that they will never be attacked by cybe-bullying.

      Well, cyber-bullying may not only happened in comments, and the author just quote some of the examples from the these comments. It’s not fair to jump to the conclusion that the article is immature just by the examples it cited.

      We always have a choice to express ourselves and the commenters should have a part to play by commenting constructively and responsibly. Being on the web does not give us the authority to abuse others. The commenters should bear its action just like the reality where laws like defamation etc applied.

        • steve42--continued,
        • September 9, 2010
        / Reply

        “commenters should have a part to play by commenting constructively and responsibly.”

        Why should they?
        They come, unpaid and uninvited.

        Most come, look, leave and never return, with nothing but a hit in your log files or web analytics to even indicate their passing.

        The fact that they comment at all – should be cause for rejoicing :)
        You have the power to encourage, guide and restrict the sort of comments are made just by the design of the site.
        Community Auto moderation tools (Like, Dislike, Flag as Abusive) even though those tools can be abused, are still helpful.

        And anyway, why should someone take the time to give a “constructive” and “helpful” post, when you yourself just coughed up some googled list of foolishness?
        Do you write a detailed note on your napkin, outlining exactly where, when and how the Chef went awry on your meal?

        it all depends.

        Sometimes, “It sucks!” is enough. Maybe it says exactly what needs to be said -(and if you are talking about a drinking straw or a vacuum cleaner, maybe its just a fair comment!)

          • David,
          • September 9, 2010
          / Reply

          I have to agree.

          In this interactive world of blogging and online social interaction, the onus IS on article authors, and bloggers alike, to direct the course of the conversation. I agree that a case can be made that comments often do cross the line, but where that line is defined can vary greatly, depending on the subject matter in question. In other words, the “line” is subjective, and I think it is an oversimplification of the nuances involved in self-expression to say that overly-harsh comments, as they may appear to be to us, qualify as cyber-bullying.

          I do feel, however, that this article’s title, “Cyber Bullies: The Terminators of the Design Community” is rather misleading, since cyber-bullying is not a phenomenon exclusively limited to the design community. Perhaps a better label might have been: “Negativism: How Negativity Influences Design and Designers”. Still, I did read the article, and as Steve has mentioned, I did leave a comment.

          That I disagree with the title or the article’s main premise is something the author can either choose to take with a grain of salt, or choose to engage the commentators in a reasoned discussion. Either way, the ball is in the author’s court at this point.

      • Boba,
      • September 15, 2010
      / Reply

      “I find poorly worded and sloppy grammar inexcusable in a ‘professional article’.”

      Steve, many influential and very valuable bloggers aren’t from America or England, so English isn’t their primary language. I don’t mind some spelling or grammar mistakes in an article that teaches me something valuable, and anyway human brain works in a way that those errors are easily understood without you noticing them unless you want to.

      I’m from Serbia, in school my second language was French, all i know about English language came from cartoons when i was a kid, and movies when i got a bit old for cartoons. I probably made tons of mistakes in my tutorials (wrote about 50 on jQuery and WordPress), but people didn’t mind them because the value of the tutorials and stuff they learned completely put aside the mistakes in grammar and spelling.

      I probably made tons of mistakes in this comment, but you still understood it, didn’t you?

  2. / Reply

    You come to expect this kind of thing now days when you run a blog and I’ve been the on the receiving end of these kind of comments but I usually try to ignore and trash them and not let them get to me. I’ve also experienced attacks and a small hate campaign against me on Twitter not long ago as well by an actual blogger who was slating me because I had left a comment on their blog because they had stole one of my images. It did shake me a bit and I am now a bit weary now about actually leaving comments on some blogs that I’m not sure about. Great article though :)

    • steve42--continued,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    the article is also somewhat immature when it bandies about ( and devalues) highly charged and meaningful words like ‘Torture’
    “The Senseless Torture Design Blogs Suffer

    Maintaining a community blog and constantly publishing useful and informative content is no easy feat. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize the effort and work that needs to go into any content prior to publication.

    Not knowing the time and effort it takes really isn’t that big of a deal. However, it becomes a problem when people do not appreciate the difficulty of the task and penalize you for not providing the best available resource for them. ”
    — The fact is, people can smell a hastily Googled and slapped together collection of Screen shots a mile away!
    They can also recognize when the article is primarily link bait/troll bait/pandering rant or any type of lesser content.

    If it takes more effort to do good articles, DO IT!

      • Raff--continued,
      • September 8, 2010
      / Reply

      Yes, I agreed with you that good articles should be appreciated and encouraged but it’s does not necessary means that we should lash out on bad article by abusing the authors.

      If you don’t like something, you can always leave constructive comments and suggestion for improvement. More importantly leave down your real identity rather than hide behind closed door so the author may follow up with you. Using crude, sarcasm, or even profanities will only hurt the chance of improvement.

      It’s always the receivers that are complaining.

      • Gemma,
      • October 30, 2010
      / Reply

      That doesn’t mean that people have the right to come and leave nasty comments. If they cannot be constructive with their criticism, then they have the choice of keeping their mouths shut. Simple as.

    • Ryan,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    Interesting article, of course this doesn’t just apply only to the design community but to any online forum. How would you go about moderating comments if they are directed in a negative light? Should you delete ‘bad’ comments and keep just the ‘good’ ones, or leave them in to prevent any backlash that might occur?

      • steve42,
      • September 9, 2010
      / Reply

      That depends.

      Some people say angry, harsh things specifically to see the reaction they get from others
      (Flame baiting, trolling)

      For those people, once they are found out, you do as another poster said.

      Make their posts visible only to themselves. They seek angry attention, and get nothing.

  3. / Reply

    As most bloggers and readers I hate to see “spammers” who can’t provide a normal comment.

    When you disagree with a post (or comment by someone else) you should atleast try to give an argument why you don’t like it or give an example of how it should be done.

    I guess the best way to handle with these comments is by asking the author to give a reason why and start a discussion.

    In a worse case scenario you could block the spammers completely from your site/blog.

    • Hidden,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    I’ve to agree that the Internet has become a tool of abuse for spammers, cyberbullies and criminals. But there is still no 100 percent full proof way to counter them. Like it or not, it does happened. Some get affected while others ignored them, still inevitably this does leave an nasty footprint in our memory.

    I strongly feel that there is a better and “kinder” way of putting things across. Hostility does not work here.

    • Carol,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    A good article Aidan. I have to agree with steve that some of the examples are simply showing immaturity, however, I agree with Aidan that even immature comments can be hurtful to the author.
    Everyone expects at some time or another to get negative comments, and that is fine and acceptable – but they don’t have to be rude or aggressive – if you don’t like the article/tutorial/freebie – whatever, just say so without adding personal insults!
    A mature, constructive disagreement or argument happening in the comments section is great – that, surely, is the whole idea????
    As for the comments on grammar – yes, it could be better in places, but over all it is not bad – it is perfectly understandable. It is not always possible to have an article proof-read – but I know that OXP DO have most of theirs proof-read, but non-native English-speaking writers will always make a few mistakes – I would not like to try to write in a foreign language, and I applaud all who do, especially when it is as clear and legible as this article!

    • David,
    • September 8, 2010
    / Reply

    I think this is a good article. Either it is motivated by receiving comments like that, either it is just motivated by seeing too many.

    Internet is almost free of any rule. How could someone possibly stop someone to write his/her opinion when they are alone in front of their screen?

    The fact is that everybody can tell their opinion anywhere, but the way it is said can change everything. The thin line between opinion and bullying, as mentioned in the article.

  4. / Reply

    I don’t agree with most of the examples, I read several of the blogs mentioned and yes, sometimes they post very low quality content, so if someone complains, she is probably right.

    I think, Aidan, that you are mixing many concepts in the article, defamation, trolls and hard criticisms are different. If you could find the same person insulting different blogs, that would be a good example of a cyber bully.

      • Dantes,
      • September 9, 2010
      / Reply

      Natalia, like mentioned in the article, cyber-bullies can be anyone and many personality. I think it is very hard to find the same person as he could change several identities to avoid detection. Long term bullying and once off bullying does not make the bully less bad.

    • DeK,
    • September 9, 2010
    / Reply

    We use a Troll Catcher. That puts the bully – or troll – in a sandboxed environment in which they can “play nice”. No other visitors will see the trolls comments but the troll. It can get quite amusing ;)

  5. / Reply

    Those who have success, they have it because they worked really hard to reach some levels and did pass over a lot of troubles. They didn’t sleep nights to work and develop a business, to think about how to improve it better and a lot of other things when some people just sleep or go and have fun outside! And then they come with some of the comments showed above.

    Don’t blame and don’t be jealous on others success because they worked hard for it.

    • Simon,
    • September 9, 2010
    / Reply

    I’m sad and disappointed that every great creation there are bound to have abuse. Behind every abuse, there is a sad story to it. What have humanity becomes?

    • steve42,
    • September 9, 2010
    / Reply

    I think that people should not be babies. Crying because you do dont get a bottle o breast.
    I think it is the design world that tends to have a lot of baby type thinkers – that because someone did not LOVE their design or blog post – that person is a ‘hater’ and is ‘jealous’

    of course, designers tend to have their own little circle of friends too, who all kiss each others asses, showering comments of happiness and praise and then getting the praise showered back on them in return.
    So, there is a lack of honest opinion. Then, some people who come and comment, they are from another group , with a DIFFERENT circle of little friends, they are likely to bully or say bad, silly things just to hurt, not even to criticize. Because of this possibility, a lot of people do not respond to negative comments (even constructive, valid ones) so they do not improve or are made better.

    Sure, ‘bullying’ may exist, but generally, what you simply have is a very small community, and some thin skinned and overly sensitive babies.

    While this is not a very good article (for the title) it was obviously a very personal one. It is clear the author had his feelings hurt some time in the past and wrote this article as a result.

      • Gemma,
      • October 30, 2010
      / Reply

      Well I always welcome an article that has been written based on the author’s personal experience. That makes it even more credible to me. But everyone has their own definition of bullying. For me, bullying is when someone puts you down unnecessarily in some form. That can take the form of nasty comments, tweets, statuses and posts that do not serve any purpose except for putting you down, making you feel small, etc. So I’m with the author on this one.

    • khan,
    • September 9, 2010
    / Reply

    in my opinion the examples are all perfect

    usually the articles written by the author are not hard and fast rule. These are just their opinions that they have learned from their experience.

    Most of the design bloggers are young; its not necessary that they can come up with a perfect solution every time. There can be drawbacks to the solution or article they write so if you know a tad better than them, share your experience and perhaps they can update the article based on your idea. The basic idea for every blog is to learn something from them; not try to undermine their effort. If you really think you know better, you start your own platform.

    BTW comments from Steve42 are perfect live example for this post.

  6. / Reply

    Criticism should be objective, not subjective.

      • mark,
      • September 9, 2010
      / Reply

      if you are criticizing numbers perhaps.
      But what about a color scheme? a logo?
      sure there are basic rules that can objectively say if something is appropriate or not. Or the logo requester may have rules or guidelines that specify how the logo is supposed to represent the idea. It can be subjectively shown or argued that the image does not meet those specifications….but many times, it is all subjective…even when there is an objective statement to be made, it may be expressed in a subjective manner : This “picture doesnt feel right” What the user may be trying to say (but cant, because they dont know how) is that maybe you dont have enough white space and the elements are crowded. And maybe your color combinations (yellow and olive green spots with grungy brown) dont make them feel like buying food from the restaurant site you made.

      sometimes you have to be glad for getting any feedback and stop being a designer and start to be a good listener, then a good understander.

      I agree with Carol and Steve42 about the immaturity of the examples – i really cant consider any of them bullying, especially if they are made on YOUR blog – where you are King and have power to delete. I think the bullying is more like when you are on a different place, like LogoPond, for example, and someone is just intent on saying hurtful things about you or your work, and you really cant do anything about it. I think there has to be a clear line between people just being stupid, immature or rude, and somebody being a bully (even though a bully is often all of those things)

        • David,
        • September 9, 2010
        / Reply

        Excellent points.

  7. / Reply

    Thank you for this article. God bless you.

    • Hardy luke,
    • August 16, 2013
    / Reply

    nice

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